“If you had sex you have to except responsibility and keep the baby” is basically the prolife version of the “she was asking for it” argument for rape

The “she was asking for it” argument is basically that a woman was asking to get raped if she chose to wear skimpy or provocative clothing. It’s her own fault.

Saying that having consensual sex means you have to carry to term & can't have an abortion is basically the “she was asking for it” argument for forced continued pregnancy.

Saying a woman was asking for it by wearing provocative clothing is faulty because women are raped while wearing all sorts of clothing, including burkas. It is rapists that cause rape. It follows her actions, but is separate and distinct from her actions.

Saying that a person is asking to get pregnant by having consensual sex is faulty because a person can get pregnant from non consensual sex too. It is a biological process that causes pregnancy. It follows her actions, but is separate and distinct from her actions.

Telling women to just not have sex is like telling women to not dress in provocative clothing. Except it’s more than that. It’s telling them not to dress in burkas either. To not go on dates. To not accept a dinner from someone. To not go back to someone’s apartment with them. To not expect to ever exist in a state where they will not attract rape to them and expect to be allowed to then call it thus. If they willingly put themselves in a position where they knew rape occurs, they are at fault and should have known better. They shouldn't have engaged in that activity then.

Telling women to just not have sex doesn’t solve the issue because it ignores the fact that women can get pregnant in non consensual sex. Making an exception for this is like making an exception for rape victims to call rape so long as they were in their own home, fully clothed. If they were outside on a date in skimpy clothing then nah, that doesn’t qualify as rape so no rectification for you.

We are allowed to exist and engage with our bodies. We are allowed to go on dates and dress in skimpy clothing without being raped. We are allowed to engage in PIV sex without fear of a biological process taking hold of us that we cannot end once it starts because prolifers deemed that, like women having to be responsible for the actions of men, women are responsible for the very nature of biology itself.

The alternative is that women just don’t have the right to exist sound in body and person. They don't have the right to fully explore their bodies in the same way that men do. They should just always except that their vaginas and uteruses can be used by another at any given moment.

They don’t have the right to exist independent of a rapist’s desires. They don’t have the right to exist independent of a biological processes executions.

You are at the whim of your biological processes just as you are at the whim of your rapist. And you are at fault for your biological process just as you are at fault for your rape.

Women have agency. But no woman can control the actions of others, nor can they control their biological processes.